Welcome to this weeks Get COACHd on Friday.
How many times do you come across a client that is stuck?
Many years ago when working in a big company, I was having a conversation with a colleague about a situation that we found ourselves in with a client. We termed the phrase ‘sticky-ditch’. It appeared not to matter what we did, the ‘sticky-ditch’ would not let us escape its’ ‘stickiness’. Whatever action we took, we would be pulled back in. In reality, we did find our way out of the problem. The first step was to accept that there was an alternative outcome.
In the beautiful world that we work in as coaches, we have many methods that we can adopt. One of my favourites is one of ‘distraction’.
James (the coach): What would you like to achieve?
Brett (the coachee): I would like to leave my current job and set up my own business. But I keep holding back from it.
James : What is the worst outcome that could happen?
Brett : I could be in a position where I cannot pay my mortgage, put food on the table. Potentially, the house could get repossessed – and I guess this insecurity could lead me to lose my family.
James : What would you like to do then?
Brett : I need to think about some other options, I guess. Something that allows me to work with these issues gives me a route to a better future.
James : Accepting that the route you choose will lead to a better future, what could you do?
Brett : (scratching his chin) I guess I could start looking at putting a few evenings aside to start thinking about setting up my dream business. This route would give me some focus, and I could run this on the side. I could always look at putting a day in the weekend aside too.
This script runs but demonstrates that simply ‘reframing’ a thought can help the coachee move out of the ‘sticky ditch’ that they are in.
Simple conversations like this do happen – and I recall one happening where someone was setting up a new venture. They started in their garage and got to a point where they could take voluntary redundancy from the company they were working in. Their business took off.
Enjoy the practising.
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