This weeks COACHd narrative – Micro-habits – 28 Jan 2022

Welcome to this weeks Get COACHd on Friday.

Continuing with this month’s theme linked to the forming of Good Habits, we may be encountering unhappy or unsettled clients in the work they do. In this time of massive change, this is understandable. After all, we are generally creatures of habit, so changing away from something stable can create challenges.

In David Rocks book, Your Brain at Work, Rock introduces us through a narrative of how our brain processes information around us. The concept of trying to hold too many thoughts to process at once will not work, and how we often feel overwhelmed when this happens. When combined with his SCARF model (Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness and Fairness), the neuroscientist suggests how differing from our preferred place on those continuums can cause a stress reaction – so, not a surprise then that a change of certainty can cause us to react.

Our clients (and us) also decide who they (we) are when they turn up.

  •  Are they going to turn up with a positive mindset?
  • Do they understand and accept what their purpose is in the workplace?
  • Are they looking after themselves and rewarding themselves? Interestingly, a reward may not necessarily mean a financial reward but could be a time to go for a walk or have a date night.

So, they (us) have decisions to make. A great model to enable shift comes from CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy). Often coined the ABCDE model, we invite our clients to challenge self-defeating (and limiting) beliefs.

I remember a situation when I had just completed my coaching training. I was in the consciously incompetent space as I clumsily explored models and outcomes with my clients. I remember an early supervision conversation that challenged me to consider the outcome of a coaching conversation. I was then invited to listen in to the noises that were going on in my mind – and a true imposter syndrome playing out, although I do hate using self-perpetuating labels.

Enjoy this week’s articles. They do take some finding, so I would welcome your thoughts on what you are seeing and perhaps any other sources that I could consider.

There are a few other things to think about this week.

  1. A few people have booked in for a chat about the next Coaching Development and Supervision group that will start at the end of February / early March. This is an annual cohort group that meets every 6 weeks (ish) to explore all stuff coaching. This could be exploring supervisory elements, or could be business related topics. If interested, do check out my diary here and arrange a quick chat.
  2. Warwick University are launching some new coaching programs. Please do visit here if this interests you.

Co Coaching (what is co coaching?) is running next week on 3rd February at 19:30. Do come along – check out here for more details and get booked on. Co Coaching is for anyone wanting to grow their coaching capability.

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